Dating Advice for Men: Fix These Traits or Repeat the Same Relationship

If you keep finding yourself in the same relationship despite dating different women, it isn’t bad luck or “the wrong woman”—it’s what you haven’t fixed yet. Many men repeat the same dating mistakes for years without realizing that certain traits they carry into relationships quietly sabotage attraction, connection, and long-term success. Until those traits are identified and fixed, the outcome will stay the same—no matter who you’re dating.

In 2020, I remember going through my divorce and all the feelings that came with it, humiliation, sadness, guilt, fear… I thought I did everything “right” (I was plugged into the church at the time and followed the ‘rules’ the best I could). As you can probably guess, going through that type of situation it is very easy and natural to play the “blame game,” “You never really loved me!” and  “You always…” You get the idea. 

Anyway, I had two options during this time — I could continue to play the blame game, grow bitter and resentful ORRR I could take responsibility for my role in the relationship, learn from it and be better… 

I chose option #2.

I took some time to reflect, to feel, to forgive and to be forgiven. During that time I digested all and any dating advice for men. 

One of the biggest lessons I learned amongst other things was-- “What you don’t fix, you’ll face again.”

This way of thinking can be applied in every facet of your life. Specifically for me, it was directed at my romantic life. Meaning if I continued to act the same as I was in my marriage–not very masculine–then I would keep getting the same or a similar result (break up, divorce). I was indecisive, passive - unsure of what I wanted for my/our future and had zero clue of the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy. To my credit I believed to love and care for a woman was simply Biblical, that I must “die” and sacrifice myself for my wife the same way Jesus did for the Church. 

Again, the traits I portrayed were simply not attractive to a woman who is in her Feminine. 

After much research, I began to implement what I was learning. It was very much the feeling where Neo begins to believe he is ‘The One’ in “The Matrix” (If you don’t know what I’m talking about, drop everything and go watch this movie now!). I began to look at life a little bit differently, and the things I didn’t quite understand before (woman language, relationships) started to be decoded, I learned it’s about their actions not necessarily just their words.

I share all of this to say IF I had never stopped, observed, reflected, and fixed, I would still continue to face the same romantic obstacles today. 

If you are going through the same vicious cycle somewhere in your life - romantically, physically, emotionally, financially, you need to know that there is a solution. It may not be an easy fix… It may be one that takes a lot of time or is extremely challenging to you as a man. The Universe, the World, whatever Higher Power you believe in is trying to teach you something. And if you choose not to fix it, you will face it again.

If you’ve been stuck in the same loop — same body, same type of relationships, same frustrations — it’s time to fix it.

Book a free discovery call with me and let’s build a plan to get your strength, confidence, and direction back.

You don’t have to do this alone. You just have to take the first step.

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