Every January, I see the same thing happen. Men tell themselves, “This is my year.” But there’s one problem: The New Year is a weak reason to change your life.

Dating your wife isn’t about money or extravagance. It’s about energy and attention.

Masculine and feminine energy are qualities, not genders. Every person — man or woman — carries both. The issue in dating isn’t that men need to be “more masculine” or women need to be “more feminine.” The issue is imbalance.

What most men are really feeling after a breakup isn’t loneliness or failure. It’s a lack of purpose.