Every January, I see the same thing happen. Men tell themselves, “This is my year.” But there’s one problem: The New Year is a weak reason to change your life.

Dating your wife isn’t about money or extravagance. It’s about energy and attention.

Masculine and feminine energy are qualities, not genders. Every person — man or woman — carries both. The issue in dating isn’t that men need to be “more masculine” or women need to be “more feminine.” The issue is imbalance.